The Non nationalist, nationalists

Call it what you will civic nationalism, nationalism lite, fat free nationalism but the new conservative civic nationalism is starting to wear thin.
Personally I have never been opposed to civic nationalism and still hope some form of it can work.
Many Americans can relate to civic nationalism because we all have close non white friends, co workers and people we have shared deep bonds with in military experience or in difficult situations for us who work in EMS ect.
I feel that there are many non European descended Americans who have earned their place in the USA and are just as much a part of the USA than anyone else but so often I find civic nationalists extremely apathetic to the existence of western culture and identity or European cultural identity.
Ben Shapiro for example is someone who slanders ethnic nationalism and jumps to the Nazi card quicker than a antifa member at a conservative rally.
However Shapiro is keen on promoting Jewish cultural heritage and preservation within Israel and globally. Interesting how that works.
The majority of the popular conservatives follow this stance from Milo to Alex Jones and the politically ambiguous Jordan Peterson who tells the masses at his lectures that nationalism is " senseless and idiotic! feeling pride in a race or nation is asinine"  However Peterson has expressed his support for the preservation of the first nations of Canada and their "proud culture" repetitively.
Far too often we see racial nationalism devolve into thuggish, primitive and anti intellectual authoritarianism so rightfully so there are people with an aversion to it but does that mean that ethno nationalism is inherently evil and destructive?
When I was in Iraq I spent time with the Yazidi community many of whom have a great sense of ethno nationalism but I had never encountered a more kind and gentle people who treated me with nothing but love and kindness.
When I was visiting an Assyrian town in Iraq I expressed my want to stay with them as they continued their fight against ISIS and I was told very politely by a local soldier/ intellectual in the community that " we need to fight for ourselves and this community is for Assyrians only"  However I was welcomed into his community several times and I was treated very well by the people.
I lived with Iraqi Armenians who were also very ethno nationalist but still to this day I am referred to as a brother by the leaders and people of one of the Armenian village's of northern Iraq.
My point to this is yes we can be nationalists both civic and ethnic nationalists and we can temper our nationalism with rational thought, intellectualism and kindness.
We can accept and help Americans of all creeds and nations beyond our borders.
I am not rejecting civic nationalism but I am rejecting the cultural, racial and ethnic relativists that see western society as nothing more than a capitalist haven of wealth and commercialism.
Their bias and hypocrisy says it all.